Hello,
I revisited this thread after reading an article today by Fred Milson, which, (although written at least thirty years ago) seems to cut through a lot of the crap, and presents a refreshingly simple but somehow touching analysis of what youth work and youth workers are really all about.
I found this section about the 'selfish' motivations particularly resonant, I think the last sentence is particularly powerful, and ties in with the points made by 'the devil' above:
"Healthy-mindedness demands that we happily acknowledge that our own needs are being met in the youth group as well as the young people's. Anything else would be intolerable since it would imply that we are superior creatures who have everything to give and nothing to receive: and would result in an attitude of patronage. In the sense that the puritanical purists mean, "absolute unselfishness" does not exist. It is natural and human that leaders and helpers should also gain at least an emotional income from the youth group: workers who enjoy what they are doing are far more likely to be successful in this sphere: and they will certainly endure longer. We are there to "share life" rather than "to do good".
That we sincerely enjoy their company is one of the best messages we can flash to the rising generation. "
From:
http://www.infed.org/archives/nayc/milson_why.htm
I wonder how often we 'flash' this message in our practice? Or what alternative messages we flash?